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I AM James Lewis Saunders. I was born March 31, 1958. The sixties were the origination of my life. There was nightly news from a black and white television. Frequent images of the Vietnam war permeated my viewing. I came from a hard working Mom who often worked 2 jobs and a Dad who worked with his hands as a carpenter. There were no cell phones, Internet, or social media. There was playing outside and when I came home from school I was watched over by one of three sets of neighbors. Thus, I never experienced any daycare centers and neither did any of my 2 siblings. I grew up with a stuttering speech impediment which I eventually got rid of.

There were lessons my parent taught me, but any missed lessons showed up later in my personality and spirit as procrastination and low self esteem. What gave me satisfaction and joy though was drawing and later on everything related to art. Later on it was receiving respect and adulation for speaking well with a deep voice, which complimented my growing height. Having been bullied many times in my youth I developed the need to be noticed and affirmed from what I could do and my results. Time passed and I got married for my first time while deployed in Korea. My entry into fatherhood was going well until I divorced my first of three wives. Falling behind in child support as a result of my choices initiated my entry as a deadbeat father. How so? Not only was I not providing financially, but my presence was absent in helping to raise my children. I didn’t see what I was doing. I wasn’t able to face it, as it was far easier to offer blame or an excuse rather than take responsibility for who I actually was at that time.

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As I entered in adulthood, I really appreciated owning material possessions or working to own material possessions. A negative for in pursuing things, is I associated things with being happy and satisfied. I remember from early 20’s on up, my thirst for owning, gathering and showing things only became stronger. It was like for me owning material possessions was like a panacea or something. It would be years before I truly appreciated the manifestation of various good things which were happening to me, which had nothing to do with what I obtained on the outside, but that who I had become on the inside made what I had on the outside that much more meaningful.

This is why I am so grateful for focusing even it was from afar with my youngest children to think deeply about dreams and goals. To read books associated with goal setting. To learn from instances where things failed to materialize, such as my youngest son’s inability to initially read like his peers. Or learning how to triumph from graduating a year early from high school. These were instances where I realized working on one’s insides can trigger unexpected areas of greatness later on. Even my youngest son’s recent math grades, where once he struggled in math show a person’s ability to change intoa positive force to be reckoned with from the inside out.

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Ed a good friend and I were having a conversation about child rearing. He marveled at the impact I had on my children after my 2nd divorce. Complimented me, their results and the fact in later years since they didn’t even live with me. He brought to mind that there are men who live with their kids and have no effect on them, saying they just chalk it up to their child’s environment or to peer pressure. We both agreed that they were not really present and had no presence. Yet in my case through it all my kids were able to triumph. He added a profound observation also though. What about the fathers who are not in their child’s lives at all? What lesser chance do these kids have and did it not have to be that way? I couldn’t help but think though of what if Ed knew how it might reveal greatness now, but my life and actions were anything but that leading up to the present. I further thought how many fathers found them selves in similar situations but in the end did nothing.

There are no doubt countless stories of single moms who successfully raised their male and female children successfully. My hat goes off to them, and they are to be congratulated and revered. However, this is not the focus of this book. I am writing this book to call attention to those men who father children who need to step into that role if they are charged to if they are not, and to those who want to say yes to fatherhood who haven’t. Fathers are supposed to be essential to the emotional well being of their children. Any man can create a child, but it takes a real man to be a Dad.This is good is for those that want to equate being a Dad with fathering children by saying yes to fatherhood.

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Ed a good friend and I were having a conversation about child rearing. He marveled at the impact I had on my children after my 2nd divorce. Complimented me, their results and the fact in later years since they didn’t even live with me. He brought to mind that there are men who live with their kids and have no effect on them, saying they just chalk it up to their child’s environment or to peer pressure. We both agreed that they were not really present and had no presence. Yet in my case through it all my kids were able to triumph. He added a profound observation also though. What about the fathers who are not in their child’s lives at all? What lesser chance do these kids have and did it not have to be that way? I couldn’t help but think though of what if Ed knew how it might reveal greatness now, but my life and actions were anything but that leading up to the present. I further thought how many fathers found them selves in similar situations but in the end did nothing.

There are no doubt countless stories of single moms who successfully raised their male and female children successfully. My hat goes off to them, and they are to be congratulated and revered. However, this is not the focus of this book. I am writing this book to call attention to those men who father children who need to step into that role if they are charged to if they are not, and to those who want to say yes to fatherhood who haven’t. Fathers are supposed to be essential to the emotional well being of their children. Any man can create a child, but it takes a real man to be a Dad.This is good is for those that want to equate being a Dad with fathering children by saying yes to fatherhood.

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Ed a good friend and I were having a conversation about child rearing. He marveled at the impact I had on my children after my 2nd divorce. Complimented me, their results and the fact in later years since they didn’t even live with me. He brought to mind that there are men who live with their kids and have no effect on them, saying they just chalk it up to their child’s environment or to peer pressure. We both agreed that they were not really present and had no presence. Yet in my case through it all my kids were able to triumph. He added a profound observation also though. What about the fathers who are not in their child’s lives at all? What lesser chance do these kids have and did it not have to be that way? I couldn’t help but think though of what if Ed knew how it might reveal greatness now, but my life and actions were anything but that leading up to the present. I further thought how many fathers found them selves in similar situations but in the end did nothing.

There are no doubt countless stories of single moms who successfully raised their male and female children successfully. My hat goes off to them, and they are to be congratulated and revered. However, this is not the focus of this book. I am writing this book to call attention to those men who father children who need to step into that role if they are charged to if they are not, and to those who want to say yes to fatherhood who haven’t. Fathers are supposed to be essential to the emotional well being of their children. Any man can create a child, but it takes a real man to be a Dad.This is good is for those that want to equate being a Dad with fathering children by saying yes to fatherhood.

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